What would you like to do – a Love Marriage or an Arrange Marriage? This is one of the question upon which there are many controversies going on. Infact truly it’s very difficult to say which type of marriage would be the right choice for anyone. As the well said saying goes “Every coin has two lines”, so are the benefits and drawbacks of Love and Arrange Marriages.No need to say that there are always the drawbacks of “Marriage”, but how could one restrain himself of it as the well said saying goes in Hindi language as “Shaadi ka laddoo – jo khaye pachtaye, jo na khaye pachtaye”. It means marriage is such a sweet that the one who eats suffers and the one who doesn’t also suffers. Anyways, when everyone has to suffer, why not decide yourself upon what way to suffer.Considering Love Marriage, the positive sides here are that both the partners (Oops, May be partners) can understand each other well, what each of them likes, dislikes, their hobbies, crafts, possessions, rights, timings, families, background, desire, motivations, nature, history, ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, etc. This would consider them to help them lead a peaceful life. But to get to final destination of getting married after Love, is not so easy. The boy and the girl must have met hundreds of times before they could finally get to the decision of getting one. They must have exchanges lots of goodies & gifts (Do I need to mention Kisses? ;-). And when they feel they know each other very well, they decide to get married. And starts arising the problem: the biggest villains – their parents and their different castes. These are the two most common problems lovers face to get married. Somehow once these problems are resolved, starts a very romantic life full of enjoyment. Time passes by and gradually starts the complaining and the fights with silly topics (of Love Marriage): (1) You don’t give me time as you would before marriage. (2) You don’t take me to parks. (3) You don’t take me to restaurants. (4) You don’t take me for a movie. (5) Husband who liked the shade of her hair before marriage now - Keep your hair tied up; there’s a hair in my food. (6) Why don’t you leave me alone for a while. (7)… (8)…. (9)…. (10)…. and the list continues. Oh….And now Arrange Marriage, where you see the girl, the girl see you (Both no more than 2 minutes), as each other 3 life-line questions, the parents meet (decide bribery) and decide the marriage. Wow, how ____________! (Don’t find a word. Experienced persons please fill in here.) You got to know nothing about each other, just see each other dumb faces and decide whether to marry or not. But that’s good as there are no commitments between each other that would give no rise to questions as in a Love Marriage like you don’t give me time now, you don’t love me as you would before, etc. But what about your likes, dislikes, expectations from each other, your hobbies and interests? If they (fortunately) match, then it heaven and well if it does not, then God forbids, but starts a life full of sacrifice and settlements. You have to leave things, food, hobbies that the other partner do not and accept his/her likes, hobbies and other habits. No, I can’t manage with this.So you see these are the pros and cons of a Love Marriage and Arrange Marriage. So better all you Bachelors, kindly understand them properly and decide how you would like your life to be ruined.
1 comments:
Interesting topic, you are right that this is one of the question upon which there are many controversies going on. It is seen that the couples who have solemnized love marriage would have to tackle all their crises on their own, because they might have been separated from their family.
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